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Wednesday, June 22, 2005
If Your Home Is Not on Fire

When I worked in industrial security and public safety, one of the more routine tasks was making sure fire escape routes were well-marked and unobstructed.

"Proceed to the nearest exit."

Divorce coaching can be counterintuitive to this.

An alarming number of clients going through divorce come to me with marital exit strategies that suggest they are fleeing houses engulfed in flame. Any close door, window or dog flap will do.

True emergencies do require fast action. Domestic violence. Hiding assets. If this is your divorce, then by all means, leaping from the third-floor balcony in hopes of catching that tree limb fifteen feet away is preferable to incineration.

But if your divorce isn't a firehouse event, running through "the nearest exit" may well take you in a direction you'll have to back-track later.

Just to get back to where you are right now — before your divorce recovery progress can begin.

—posted by Dell Deaton @11:55 PM EST 6/22/2005 [150]

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