Preface—
If you’re new here, this is an active site.
If you were here prior to 2026 and feel like you’ve seen something along the lines of those words before, then adjust your reading of the above to: “… this is a more active site.”*
A quarter-century prior to (re-)activation, I developed precursor web content to help individuals who were looking to get the most from their participation in divorce support groups held in local churches. Those in-person experiences then reciprocated with intimate substance.
Links to periodic captures of those resources are available on the Divorce Balance “Archives” page.
Ongoing, what you see here is focused on revisiting mainstream, often familiar content through what I interchangeably label the “lens of divorce” or a “divorce lens.” There’s no shortage of books and media on-point with advice on myriad aspects of divorce; lots of people across the full spectrum of dirt-under-fingernails experience, to advanced-training, rank and recommend bests from the bunch.
I used to be one of ’em.
Since then, it’s been my in-the-trenches experience that people most effectively see, and learn, and “recover” from the onslaught of marital dissolution by way of oblique channels of messaging.
Remember that favorited wedding song? How does it strike you today?
Recalling episodes of television, passages from Scripture, or pick-your-metaphor, through an unfamiliar aperture, color-shift coating, distorted focal-length divorce lens tends to alter every vista. Given this reality, how ’bout if we try to manage that to improved ends?
See the Entrée page to get started.
Beyond that, and if you’re open to it, I will offer the following as a closing note.
John 5:2-6 tells of an encounter between Jesus and an afflicted man on the periphery of pool said to have had powers of healing. Consequentially, He asked the man, “Do you wish to get well?”
Think on it.
— Dell Deaton
January 13, 2026
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* Next iterations, I’ve found, often benefit from a bit of extended time in sandbox prior to public debut.