Imagine the spiraling vortex of water as it drains from a filled bathtub. It’s an illustration I’ve hand-drawn simply with markers on whiteboards for countless counseling and divorce support group sessions. The analogy works like this. At some baseline point in a marriage, one spouse perceives the other to be contributing “less” to the marital dynamic. As a reaction, his or her partner then gives less from their side. But it’s tough to hit the line just right here: Invariably, respondent overshoots by some margin, withholding a bit more than what they perceived to have been withheld from them in… Continue Reading…