Sometimes the distribution of research can be as important or more so than its source. In this case, I’m referring to statistics in a chart titled “Divorce cause,” that’s part of the Lutheran Hour Ministries (Int’l Lutheran Laymen’s League) pamphlet titled, “Divorce: Practical ways to cope with the anger, loneliness, guilt, fear of divorce.” Distributed free of charge to parishioners through local Lutheran churches, here are the statistics they provide male versus female perspectives. females males Poor communication 69.7% 59.3% Basic unhappiness 59.9% 46.9% Incompatibility 56.4% 44.7% Emotional abuse 55.5% 24.7% Money problems 32.9% 28.7% Sexual problems 32.1% 30.2% Alcohol… Continue Reading…
September 1, 2009
Are you hiding behind anger? In a pamphlet on divorce for Lutheran Hour Ministries, Jean-Marc Daignault validates what I’ve said for some time. Anger, she writes, “can be a creative force. It can stimulate us to confront unpleasant experiences. It can motivate us to action.” As professionals helping individuals with divorce, we also see the downside that it portends for people, what they can bring down upon themselves by improperly or excessively indulging it. Anger “can be a way to hide from something we’d rather not face. For example, if a man can blame his ex-wife for the breakup of… Continue Reading…