Be careful when an organizational structure advocates co-anything as a leadership construct. Some divorce support groups favor co-facilitated discussions, typically led by one man and one woman (unaffiliated), out of a perception that this supports a better balance in participation and improvements via same-gender connect-ability. I’ve also seen divorce mediations similarly managed. In fact, all the better if the co-mediators have little if any prior experience in even working together before-hand. The argument is that this provides for a purity of direction, solutions more driven from the bottom up. Potential bias is minimized. But at what cost? Everything has a… Continue Reading…
August 25, 2009
Many churches that offer Divorce Recovery Workshops believe that an important later step in healing for individuals is for those individuals to actually facilitate break-out group discussions for a program they, themselves, have previously attended. The question is, how soon? In my experience, the answer is the same as what research has found best in waiting to date: One to three years after entry of your Judgment of Divorce. And, no, it is not appropriate to count periods of separation or prolongued litigation against this as “credit for time served.” There are simply too many things on which the newly-divorced… Continue Reading…