This can be tough to discern when it’s being used as a coercive tactic, because divorce has some very real deadlines as well. [1-3] If you’re trying to negotiate a divorce settlement in anticipation of making an initial Filing that… Continue Reading…
August 24, 2019
In the early 1980s, most of my consulting work was as what’s commonly called an “executive coach,” and in organizational design. The latter fundmantally means studying interactions between two or more individuals and developing means by which they can best… Continue Reading…
August 8, 2019
One of the ways I effectively use to challenge entrenched thinking about divorce is through engaging in not-readily-apparent discussion of similar paths. “A Taste of Armageddon” is frequently applicable to divorce process. It’s a story from the original Star Trek… Continue Reading…
September 4, 2009
Many people post-divorce seem to feel compelled to say that they’re “still friends.” “Jonathan and David – Soul Friends,” is how The Message titles 1 Samuel 18. The text that follows begins with this paragraph. By the time David had… Continue Reading…
September 3, 2009
Every so often, someone suggests to me that “the Christian approach to divorce” is inherently negotiation from a position of weakness. They cite Luke 6:29-30 in particular. “If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also…. Continue Reading…
September 2, 2009
Sometimes the distribution of research can be as important or more so than its source. In this case, I’m referring to statistics in a chart titled “Divorce cause,” that’s part of the Lutheran Hour Ministries (Int’l Lutheran Laymen’s League) pamphlet… Continue Reading…