Are you hiding behind anger? In a pamphlet on divorce for Lutheran Hour Ministries, Jean-Marc Daignault validates what I’ve said for some time. Anger, she writes, “can be a creative force. It can stimulate us to confront unpleasant experiences. It… Continue Reading…
August 31, 2009
“Divorce: Practical ways to cope with the anger, loneliness, guilt, fear of divorce,” is a 1993 publication of Int’l Lutheran Layman’s League, “Lutheran Hour Ministries.” Picking up on what I last wrote in this Blog, let’s take a look at… Continue Reading…
August 28, 2009
An interesting discussion came up in my presentation for the First Presbyterian Divorce Recovery Workshop last night. [1] “Getting Your Ex in Focus” is what their leadership had titled it when I first started with them in 2003. My goal… Continue Reading…
August 25, 2009
Many churches that offer Divorce Recovery Workshops believe that an important later step in healing for individuals is to actually facilitate break-out group discussions for a program they, themselves, have previously attended. The question is, how soon? In my experience,… Continue Reading…
August 20, 2009
Marital reconsiliation advocacy often cites Malachi 2:15 as a command. “Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirit they are His. And why one? Because He was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and… Continue Reading…
November 27, 2004
Depression afflicts 9.5% of the U.S. population. [1] Now if you have a Judgment of Divorce entered this time of year, many friends will instinctually look out for signs of depression. But I’m going to ask that we open our… Continue Reading…
Thanksgiving morning: A little more winter than fall, as this heavy-hearted dream was described to me. “Margaret” was walking to the front door of her in-laws’ house. Did I say in-laws? Former in-laws. She stopped to wipe the frost away… Continue Reading…
November 19, 2004
“Harsh startups” — I avoid ’em as best I can, thanks to research from John Gottman. [1] That’s why the first session in my current Divorce Recovery Workshop started out with administrative and housekeeping items, just like all those before… Continue Reading…
November 16, 2004
With apologies to James Bond, I figured this bit of headline word play might make it easier to identify the current issue of BestLife you’ll be looking for — with Pierce Bosnan on the cover. [1-2] “Time of Your Life”… Continue Reading…