The downside of a “passionate” attachment is, of course, when there’s a need to detach. One of the instruments I’ve found useful in helping clients reality-check this challenge is called the “Passionate Love Scale.” It was developed some thirty years ago by psychologist Elaine Hatfield and sociologist Susan Sprecher. Instructions: Base each answer on a time when your feelings were most intense (as opposed to the point which drove your marriage to divorce). Every sentence will be answered with a number from 1 (not at all true) to 9 (definitely true). The higher the score, the more your feelings of… Continue Reading…